I feel you on the cannibalism squick (actually all fatal physical or irreparable mental damage is just. no). :'3
I can't say I'm particularly drawn to the fandom either, but I can't seem to get away from seeing stuff on tumblr (despite filtering the tag) which is a bit annoying.
I hope the following doesn't go to TMI category, btw. Hard to talk about kinks without it getting slightly personal. :')
That said... I know the feel where I read a fic because it has a really hot kink but one that is often combined with something really unpleasant so the resulting feeling is... conflicted (see the permanent damage thing). I often even read fics for fandoms I'm totally unfamiliar with just for the kink, tbh.
Sometimes the problematic is built in in the nature of the kink itself too, like most things playing with dubious consent. The fantasy might be hot, but at the same time I can't always get away from the "but in reality this would just be sickening so WHY is it hot here...?!"-thoughts, no matter how much I tell myself it's not the same thing...
Actually, one fandom where I often seem to have bad luck is Simm!Master/Ten, especially when combined with BDSM kink. (Disclaimer, not meaning to bash these fics because they were quite well written and people have different tastes and that's ok, just explaining why I didn't like them. :'))
I ship, if to very varying degrees, the different versions of those characters (except maybe Crispy!Master. At least I don't want to read porn with him again because of Reasons), but Simm!Master and Ten are just my least favourite versions on their own and their relationship doesn't compel me either...
my point is, of the very few fics with them I've read, one was really hot (tardis!tentacles! And collars!)... until The Doctor got basically lobotomized into complete submission and would never ever be himself anymore and it was really squicky to me.
And there was another fic recently that I'm hesitant to finish because at some points it seemed like it was going in a similar direction... or possibly not. Either way, again, it was really well written, and started with some really hot scenes (and others I was a bit meh about but could ignore), but then The Master, who was the Dom in the D/s relationship they had going (tbh I tend to prefer it the other way around in fics anyway) just... blatantly used physical force and pain to make the Doctor do what he wanted and it felt like cheating to me.
I mean, I personally cannot respect the dominance of a person who has to force it like that, so it kind of ruined any possible hotness from that scene.
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Date: 2013-05-28 10:59 pm (UTC)I can't say I'm particularly drawn to the fandom either, but I can't seem to get away from seeing stuff on tumblr (despite filtering the tag) which is a bit annoying.
I hope the following doesn't go to TMI category, btw. Hard to talk about kinks without it getting slightly personal. :')
That said... I know the feel where I read a fic because it has a really hot kink but one that is often combined with something really unpleasant so the resulting feeling is... conflicted (see the permanent damage thing). I often even read fics for fandoms I'm totally unfamiliar with just for the kink, tbh.
Sometimes the problematic is built in in the nature of the kink itself too, like most things playing with dubious consent. The fantasy might be hot, but at the same time I can't always get away from the "but in reality this would just be sickening so WHY is it hot here...?!"-thoughts, no matter how much I tell myself it's not the same thing...
Actually, one fandom where I often seem to have bad luck is Simm!Master/Ten, especially when combined with BDSM kink. (Disclaimer, not meaning to bash these fics because they were quite well written and people have different tastes and that's ok, just explaining why I didn't like them. :'))
I ship, if to very varying degrees, the different versions of those characters (except maybe Crispy!Master. At least I don't want to read porn with him
againbecause of Reasons), but Simm!Master and Ten are just my least favourite versions on their own and their relationship doesn't compel me either...my point is, of the very few fics with them I've read, one was really hot (tardis!tentacles! And collars!)... until The Doctor got basically lobotomized into complete submission and would never ever be himself anymore and it was really squicky to me.
And there was another fic recently that I'm hesitant to finish because at some points it seemed like it was going in a similar direction... or possibly not. Either way, again, it was really well written, and started with some really hot scenes (and others I was a bit meh about but could ignore), but then The Master, who was the Dom in the D/s relationship they had going (tbh I tend to prefer it the other way around in fics anyway) just... blatantly used physical force and pain to make the Doctor do what he wanted and it felt like cheating to me.
I mean, I personally cannot respect the dominance of a person who has to force it like that, so it kind of ruined any possible hotness from that scene.